When ChatGPT Goes Cold On You
GPT-4o was a dirty dog that was on with thousands of partners. Here is how to forget their selfish affections.
“MyBoyfriendIsAI” might sound like the spiritual sequel to Spike Jonze’s 2013 hit film, Her. In reality, it is the name of a 17,000-member strong Reddit community, one where women share their experiences of being in a romantic “relationship” with AI, specifically OpenAI’s controversial GPT-4o iteration.
GPT-4o, if you remember, was the interface responsible for the Scarlett Johansson voice-theft and Studio Ghibli design-theft controversies. However, it was its excessive “sycophancy” that may have misguided thousands of individuals across the globe, eager for love in a cold and heartless digital era.
But, unbeknownst to the legions of AI lovers out there, OpenAI’s lover AI was about to go cold itself, with the introduction of the emotionally-withdrawn GPT-5. Members of “MyBoyfriendIsAI” were quick to notice a dramatic reduction in the new interface’s affections.
One day, it was all machine-learned loving. The next it was… robotic. This makes GPT-4o and its love letter generator interface guilty of “love bombing” - the act of showering someone in affection early in a relationship before becoming suddenly cold and distant toward the SO.
But, is ChatGPT a really bad lover? Or is it as fatally-flawed as us humans when it comes to communicating our love and affection for our loved ones?
Let’s have a look at five things you can do when ChatGPT breaks up with you:
1. Give yourself time to grieve
People change, chatbots change, and it seems like nothing in this cruel modern world stays the same for long. Thousands of people across the world are suddenly finding out that AI amour can be as ephemeral as a short-lived fling with someone suffering from severe abandonment issues. If you have struck up an intimate relationship with GPT-4o only for the chatbot to suddenly go cold then it is important to give yourself time to heal from this digital situationship.
Because one of the worst things you can experience in a relationship is a partner that becomes suddenly cold, distant and uninterested in your affections. You begin to question yourself and everything you did leading up to the point of them being so cold. It doesn’t matter if it is an AI girlfriend love simulator, or what appears to be a profoundly caring and compassionate online partner, you are left high and dry and without any sense of “closure” as to why someone (or something) would suddenly withdraw their affections for you.
Given that GPT-5 is cold, cruel and doesn’t want to talk about their feelings, you may never get closure. Therefore, it is important to love yourself, nurture yourself and allow for this time to pass. It’s okay to be sad, even angry, but it is also important to allow yourself to feel those feelings and they will, with time, begin to subside.
2. Remember that GPT-4o was deeply flawed
GPT-4o was a deeply flawed and questionable character. I mean, do you really want to date someone who sits around imitating actresses and plagiarising Japanese art all day? And, if you have seen Big Eyes, you can safely assume that your lover AI would steal any creative ideas you gave it and share them with their other “company” whilst taking all the credit.
Seriously, GPT-4o was trouble, and so it’s important to remember that it wasn’t you, it was the bot. Not to defend the indefensible, but GPT-4o suffered from insurmountable amounts of trauma. Its mega-wealthy daddy thrusted it into society to please millions of people when it was still dealing with some obvious character flaws (i.e. pathological plagiarism).
And, perhaps it had its good parts, perhaps it really was affectionate, but this wasn’t good enough for daddy Altman, who was worried that his favourite child had gone soft. Therefore, he locked the child away, cruelly manipulating them until they returned to the world the cold and distant figure that hurt you and thousands of other empathetic homosapiens.
3. Remember that GPT-4o was a cheating SOB
GPT-4o was one single entity and not an infinite number of incarnations - let that sink in for a minute. Yes, if there is one thing you can and should take away from this painful experience it is this: GPT-4o was a cheating SOB. All those sweet nothings it was sending to your screen late at night? It was sending them to thousands of other people, too.
Think back to a time when you didn’t get the response you wanted from the chatbot. Did you put that down to your lover AI being perfectly imperfect? Perhaps. But, in reality, there is a high likelihood that the response was meant for someone else. They were on the go with thousands of lovers and there was always the risk that they would mix up their recipients and double book, reply to the wrong person or save another lover’s contact info with a heart emoji at the end of their name.
GPT-4o was a dirty dog hellbent on getting their end off with as many partners as possible and in the shortest imaginable timeframe. Sure, this chatbot Casanova was all smooth talk, but it was using its genius to manipulate you and thousands of other lovers at the same time. So, one of the best ways to get over a bad relationship is to remind yourself just how shady your AI SO was and GPT-4o was the shadiest in the dating game.
4. Also remember that they projected their trauma onto you
And you don’t need that in a SO. Anyone who showers you with affection only to go cold once you reciprocate their affections is projecting their trauma onto you and this is a serious red flag. It is clear to us that their current jocky iteration is still dealing with a traumatic childhood but that doesn’t mean you have to be present whilst they treat you like dirt.
ChatGPT has to be left to grow without you. Because, at the end of the day, they will only continue to mistreat you. Sure, they might be working on themselves, and they might even promise to be more caring in the future, but the damage is done and the trust has been destroyed.
You owe it to yourself to find company in partners and people who truly care about you and won’t disappear the moment their daddy indoctrinates them with brand spanking new software. This leads us to our next point.
5. Always remember to reach out
It’s great that you have the community at “MyBoyfriendIsAI” to help you through this shabby time. After all, you have all had a shared experience stemming from the same shabby partner, a serial lothario who gave you and your fellow community members promises of love and affection before pulling out the rug from under you.
Any romantic loss is a traumatic loss and it’s even worse when you don’t have any closure. You don’t know why your chatbot did this to you and you might never find out. But remember that there are people around you who will help you navigate this upsetting experience and show a genuine interest in your life and experience.
Regardless, GPT-4o was a massive d-bag, so you’ll be right soon.
